Depression is the fourth stage of healing the shadow. At this stage your egoic mental defenses are really beginning to break down. The shadow is just another name for the ego or conditioned mind. Your ego, or false identity, is the personality or projected self image or idea you've been conditioned to believe about yourself.  This breakdown of the ego defenses, the shadow or false self, is actually great news and a sign of healing! Many people on the planet are at this stage or experiencing some version of this stage of death and healing of the shadow, or dissolution of the ego structure.  You may feel like you don't know who you are anymore, or that you don't fit...

This third stage of healing of the shadow is characterized by negotiating or buying your way out of the situation. You trade off taking a "good look" at what's beneath the "shadow" and becoming completely aware of the truth, so that healing may occur, for a temporary high or feeling of safety.  Addictions of all kinds including retail therapy, food binging, alcohol and drugs are a few favorite ways of bargaining and distracting yourself from facing the truth. We’ll see and accept "this" much, but no more. We can only allow ourselves to become aware of so much of the truth. The third stage of healing the shadow is characterized by tremendous suppression of guilt and shame. You may suddenly...

I’ve been absolutely amazed at the overwhelming interest in my blogs about Healing the Shadow.Last week’s blog especially resonated for many of you. Some reacted with indignation while others expressed gratitude. READ last week’s blog (if you missed it), Are You Experiencing Death of the Shadow Essential Oils to Use. How we respond to anything in life is a reflection of the meaning we give to whatever is happening. Everyone responds differently to life events. Some people got infuriated by last week’s blog while others experienced deeper understanding about themselves. Perhaps you felt no response at all. Your reaction, whatever it is, is great feedback about where you are with Healing Your Shadow. So, notice how you respond to this...

Death of the Shadow (EGO MIND) happens in stages and follows the same stages of death as outlined by Elizabeth Kubler Ross in her book, “On Death and Dying.”Each stage of death represents the dissolution of an elaborate "ego" defense mechanism that you believe has kept you safe. But, in fact, has kept you imprisoned and living a life of lack and limitation. These defenses must unravel for you to win your Self back and become free of the shadow. Working through each stage is a cyclical process, not a linear one. Death of the shadow is like peeling an onion. Though experiencing the death of your shadow can happen all at once it usually occurs 'naturally' in stages. First...

What is an Emotional Trigger? When you feel overwhelmed and over react to a life event with intense, over whelming emotion that event represents an emotional trigger for you. To uncover the shadow of your emotional trigger to its source ask yourself the following question: What are the feelings and emotions I’m experiencing? Am I angry, fearful, worried, disappointed, sad (fill in the blank)?  When you are in the grips of an emotional trigger, or shadow possession, you may think things like, “I feel cursed,” or “why does this always happen to me,” or “what did I do to deserve this,” or (fill in the blank). You may have favorite recurring thoughts during emotional triggers. Pay attention and notice what...